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Don’t Play with the Door

I have a pet peeve.  Periodically, one child will run down the hall (usually carrying something another child was playing with) and slam the door, leaving a sibling crying in the hall.  I hate it when the children play with the door.  All that yelling has never resulted in a change in behavior, though.

Tonight, the kids were playing a game with the bedroom door, and getting yelled at for it.  Isaac slammed the door, and Charlotte’s thumb got caught.  The damage was pretty bad; the tip of her thumb was just dangling, and she was in some real pain.  She’s a stoic little soul, 2008-12-02 Charlotte at the hospital 001though.  The first emergency room wouldn’t take our insurance, so we had to go to the next place.  Makes me glad we’re not out in the sticks.  After the first burst of tears, Charlotte was very calm, if maybe a little scared.

**Grizzly Details Warning**

When they gave Charlotte the shots to numb her thumb, it stung quite a bit.  I’m a dad, so I’m not ashamed to say I cried just a little with her.  I love my little girl.  I held her other hand and put my head close to hers and comforted her as best I could.  Kathleen sang to her and played a game finding the shapes in the room.  Once the anesthetic kicked in, she was very calm.

The tip of her thumb was nearly completely severed, about halfway through where the nail is.  The nail was lost; the doctor says it will probably grow back a little funny.  The bone was broken (just right at the tip), which says a lot about how tough my little girl is.  The doctor stitched it back together, and the tip will probably heal just fine.  He used dissolving sutures so she won’t have to have them removed.  Charlotte watched the whole procedure, and was very still and quiet.

The discharge papers classify it as "Near Amputation Digit; Fracture of Phalanx of Finger".

**End Grizzly Details**

When everything was done, she said, "I have no more hurt thumb."  They put a big blue bandage on her, gave her some antibiotics, and sent us home.  Once we were on our way, she perked right up.  We had a story, a hug, and a prayer, and she’s asleep in bed.  I’ll delay piano lessons for approximately four weeks.

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Motivators

Krista and I decided we wanted to send my mom a package to make working in my dad’s office less depressing so we decided to make her those motivational posters with the word and then quote, only we thought we’d select pictures of our kids.  We had some difficulty figuring out a good way to make them until I discovered this neat little tool.  Here are the results of our work:   (If you don’t see a slide show of pictures you may have to actually go to our website instead of reading our posts in a blog reader)

Click here to see the ones Krista made.

A Conversation with Charlotte

I decided to make this a separate blog post because I didn’t want to make an 11.16.08 Charlotte (1)excessively long blog post.

Here’s some of the conversation Charlotte and I had as she fell asleep in my arms this evening

Charlotte:  "I’m Charlotte."

me:  "Yes, you’re Charlotte."

Charlotte:  "Nicole is not Charlotte.  Nicole is a baby."

me:  "Yes, Nicole is a baby."

Charlotte:  "Mom, I’m not bad, bad."

me: "You’re my good little girl and I love you."

Charlotte:  "My eyes open and close. . . Mouths open and close. . . .Eyes open and close. . .but eyebrows don’t open and close. . . and doors open and close. . .Boys don’t open and close."

me:  "Do girls open and close?"

Charlotte:  "no"

me:  "Girls open and close their mouths"

Charlotte:  "Mom, I’m Charlotte"

I’m Charlotte

That’s her favorite phrase.  Throughout the day she’ll just say "I’m Charlotte."  During dinner, when she plays, as I hug her good-night.  I wonder how much of her behavior iP1030970-1 s because she’s Charlotte and how much of it can be attributed to being 2.

I love her dearly, but she is the most stubborn, strong willed little girl that I know.  The other day she turned a 2-minute time out into a 20 minute time out because she refused to say sorry.  After the timer went off, I asked her to say sorry.  She refused.  I told her if she said sorry she could come down.  She only said "I want out of time out" (notice how many more words that is–sorry would have been much shorter).  The conversation continued in this way.  I periodically checked to see if she was ready to say sorry and it was about 20 minutes later when she finally mumbled a barely audible sorry.  The next time she earned a time out, she did the exact same thing.  Luckily today she apologized much quicker.

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To Cousin Joshua

The kids got a letter from their cousin today.  Isaac was excited to write back.  Here is what he said and the responses from his sisters:

Dear Joshua-

I want to tell you about everything that we do. Like when we made a sugar mess today. We were spilling it. Mom was not happy.

I like big boy legos. I maybe would like different little blocks. I like to help my mother. I want to write all the things we do, me and Charlotte. . . play with big boy legos. . and playing with the building set. . .and um watching Nicole and. . um doing everything that I do.

I want to write about I can come there. I can’t get out the door without my P1030881mother. I can’t put the big boy legos on the floor.

I want you to write all that tigers do. They do. . Killing things, and eating the things that they killed, and kill things for dinners, and wake up in the nighttime and eat kids when they are naughty in the night and how they do everything that they do. How they get on trains is by scratching and breaking them. Tigers swim in water. Kids can’t be awake in the night. No letting Joshua go out of his bed in the night and his mom will look at this letter and not let her kid not to, not let her kid not to do that.

Lets tell them the mommy and daddy part about you guys. Tell them about when mom P1030850 and dad got married and how Nicole looks at everything and how Nicole touches the floor sitting like that and how she plays with the toys on that and how she does everything and how she bees nice to Zebras and nice to Zebras like that. The Nicole part is talking about how babies do and the Nicole part is how much babies do.

I want to do how our family does. Tell how much we do. Tell them that I say what time will it be the last day. Our family does um, our family says different kinds of words. And like to not get sick and fat, but I want candy. And I like to put my fingers like this way right between my buttons (on his computer).

I like to drink water. Now the milk part. That we drink milk at every dinner time. That’s the whole milk part. Then we get out of the milk part. When you’re all finished typing it you will close the milk part.

From,

Isaac

 

Nicole says: “ahhh”. . .drool. . .. squeal. . .smile. . .”grrrr”P1030854

 

Mom: Charlotte do you want to write a letter to Joshua?

Charlotte: I have to close all of them

Mom: Do you want to write a letter

Charlotte: I will close the window like that.

Prayers

Charlotte has become more independent in her prayers lately.  10.11.08 Charlotte (6)Instead of just repeating the same phrases over or waiting for help, she has started adding new ones.  Here are a few favorites from this week:  "Bless us to have good dreams.  Bless us to have another good dream."  "Bless that all my dreams will work."

Last week Isaac said "Thank the that I’m not worried that I’ll never see my aunt Krista again."

There are probably more amusing lines, but I can’t currently think of anymore from recent prayers.

Halloween

10.31.08 Isaac (1)-1 Yes, I know I’m behind, but better late then never right.  We had a busy day but it was fun.  I do have a picture of all three of my kids in their costumes, but I don’t think I look very good in it so I refuse to post it here.  We started the day at preschool group then we came home for lunch and naps.  Aunt Krista and baby Paul came over and joined us in a tour of Zach’s office (they always over decorate).  After collecting candy there we came home and changed then headed out to dinner at Tucanos with extended family.  When we finished eating all the meat we could, we came home and the kids changed into PJs and handed out candy before going to bed.

When the weather is nice . . .

10.20.08 Isaac and Charlotte (2)I just love to be outside with my kids.  I can’t stand to be outside when it’s too hot so there are probably months in the summer when I don’t take the kids outside at all, but on days when it’s nice, I just can’t stay in.  These are the days I neglect all my housework and spend as much time as I can outside.  We started our day with a wagon/bicycle ride to the local old folks home where we participated in a Monday RS meeting program, then we 10.20.08 Charlotte and Makenna (3)rode home, did a few chores then it was back outside for a picnic and play.  We invited the neighbors over to join us.  Charlotte had much fun playing ‘ring-around-the-rosie" with Makenna.  they’d fall down before finishing the song and then kick their feet in the air and laugh.  After a haircut and a trip to the grocery store we spent some time outside at Grandma Cochran’s house (beware an upcoming blog involving a gas grill and someone’s hair!) 

Bad Hair Day

P1030709-1 Charlotte woke up one morning with particularly bad hair.  I honestly didn’t tease it or do anything to make it look worse, she just woke up with her hair looking like this and when I saw it I was amused and had to take a picture and today when I saw the picture I decided that it was hair worthy of a blog post!  It actually looks much like my hair looked after giving birth to Isaac.  You can check out another great angle by clicking here to see the other picture on flickr.

Snow Already?!

Can you believe we just had our first snow of the year?P1030625  It seems way too early.  Isaac and Charlotte were thrilled and bugged me all morning to let them go out and play.  Once the baby fell asleep I took them out and let them run around and make snowballs while I attempted to take pictures.  I got very few pictures where you could see their faces since they spent most of the time looking down at the snow and didn’t want to be bothered to look up at my camera.  Charlotte’s favorite thing was to pick up a handful of snow, throw it on the sidewalk and then dance on it.  Isaac enjoyed making snowballs at first but then started picking up as much snow as he could and then offering to give it to his sister or his mom.

The fun never ends. . .

P1030601So here’s a few more comments from this morning to go with last night’s post:

"It’s snowing!  It’s snowing!  It’s Christmas!!" –Isaac said this as he excitedly danced around the house just after viewing snowflakes falling this morning.

"I want stinky underwear!!!"  Charlotte cried this over and over upon having her soiled underwear changed.  Given the choice of clean underwear or a diaper she again exclaimed "I want stinky underwear!"

A fly on the wall in our house

I’m sure it’s not often the wish of many to be a fly on the wall in our house (although  Zach and Isaac (1) there have been a few flies in the house entertaining cats, but my hand-held-battery-powered-tennis-racket-shaped-fly-zapper seems to have alleviated that problem).  Here are some of the things you might have heard if you were that unzapped fly:

"All our prayers are working!"   — Isaac, after praying to find things and then finding them.

"That’s a regular baby."  — Charlotte, in reference to Nicole (she needed to differentiate Nicole from her dolls).

"The mail man sent me something to send him some mail."  — Isaac, after opening some junk mail and finding a return envelope.  Later he decided we should put a chocolate bar in the envelope and send it to Ohio for his grandma Bunny.

"it IS a night time prayer!"  — Charlotte, after thanking Heavenly Father for the food and blessing it in her bedtime prayer.  Her mother told her that she said a dinner prayer, but she insisted it was a night time prayer and continued to bless the food for several more nights.

10.3.08 Charlotte (1)"So you don’t feel smelly?  If you feel smelly you won’t give anyone food?" — Isaac, after I told him I was going to go take a shower.

"It is funny to knock over Isaac’s building"  –Charlotte, after knocking over Isaac’s building.  Isaac cried and Charlotte laughed and ran into the living room where I told her that it wasn’t funny to knock over her brother’s buildings.  She repeated this phrase a few times with such insistence that it was hard not to laugh (which might have proved her point).

"That game is for Daddies when they don’t want to play with their kids?"  –Isaac asked this question to his father who was playing a game with "boomers" in it (refer to the toddler dictionary).

Prayer

This morning Isaac told me he couldn’t find his water bottle and asked if we could pray to have Heavenly Father help him.  So we said a little prayer and almost as soon as we said ‘Amen,’ he found the water bottle.  Later when he was putting on his sandals he said "Should we pray for my old sandals?  Then I could have two pairs of sandals!"9.29.08 Isaac and CharlotteI know the picture has nothing to do with the post, but I love pictures so I can’t post without one.

Naps

Charlotte gave up naps completely probably a month or two ago.  She used to take a 9.26.08 Charlotte (1)good nap in the afternoon, but I’d go to turn off some of the lights in her room two hours after I put her to bed and she’d still be awake looking at books.  So when she no longer seemed to be able to fall asleep during the day I figured it was for the best because she started falling to sleep at night much more quickly.  This picture is of one of the few occasions that she has decided she still needs a nap.  I left her coloring while I ran to the bread store (Zach was in our room) and when I came home she was right where I left her sound asleep.

Chores Update

9.23.08 Isaac, Charlotte, and Nicole (1)-1 I was initially disappointed by how quickly Isaac and Charlotte’s zest for chores dissipated, but things are improving now.  Understanding timing is important.  I’ve learned that they have no desire to do chores if they’re already doing something that they enjoy.  That seems like an obvious lesson, but I tried bribing them away from toys in order to do work and it didn’t work and just frustrated me.  If I really want to motivate my children, I must create a scarcity that can only be filled through chores.  I haven’t been willing to create much of a scarcity for play because they get into trouble if I don’t give them engaging play options.  There are two types of things that I am able to create a scarcity in and I have used those two things as my motivators.  One is treats/sweets and the other is one-on-one time with mom.  As you can see from the picture, they are required to complete four chores for a treat of their choosing.  The second part is trickier.  Each time t2008-09-28 002 hey fill a small treat strip, they get to add a picture of themselves to the outing progress cha rt.  After four pictures (16 chores) they get an outing with mom.  The other children go to Grandma’s house while the child who earned the outing spends time with mom.  Outings include things like a bicycle ride (which Isaac is currently working toward), swimming, a trip to the library, or a trip to the park.  This system has been rewarding in multiple ways.  It allows me to regulate treat intake better, the kids are enjoying doing chores, and I get to spend one on one time with each of them (Nicole gets her mom time at 2:00AM or 4:00AM ).

Charlotte

Charlotte is my momma’s girl.  She insists on hugs first thing in the morning, at 9.14.08 Isaac and Charlotte-1 bedtime and periodically throughout the day.  Unfortunately, I’m not always available for hugging.  She crawls on my lap as I’m feeding Nicole, insists I put Nicole in the swing or just cries at my feet.  Sometimes she grabs my legs as I’m walking and holding Nicole and I feel bad when I have to free my legs and step over her as she slumps to the ground and cries.  Zach thinks that I reinforce her crying when I give her hugs when she cries and clings, and I agree somewhat, but how can I deny her hugs?  I have tried a few times insisting that she calm down and ask nicely for a hug, but there are times when I’m taking care of the baby and I really can’t hug her even if she ask nicely so I can’t immediately reinforce the behavior I want.  I try to hug her periodically when I’m not trying to calm or feed Nicole, but I feel awful when all she wants is a hug from her mother and I can’t give her one. 

Preschooler’s Dictionary

Here are some definitions from my little ones:8.31.08 Isaac, Charlotte, and Nicole (5)

Hinges = elbows or knees   Context:  Just before dinner he told me that his tummy was full because elevators in his legs had carried salad up past his hinges to his tummy and filled him up.  When I told him we were having tacos, he said the elevators took the salad back down.

Mystery Symbol = question mark     Context:  While typing, Isaac asks “Mom, where’s my mystery symbol?”

The toilet’s esophagus = the part of the toilet directly below the bowl that leads down into the ground   Context:  “mom, is this the toilet’s esophagus?”

Shampoo for hands = soap  Context:  I sent Isaac in to wash his hands.  He came back  out and said “I have no shampoo for hands–that is soap.”

Crying when I’m swimming show = Olympic swimming  Context:  Charlotte has been 9.6.08 Isaac, Charlotte, and Nicole (1) enjoying the Olympics.  So far her favorite event is swimming which she called the “crying when I’m swimming show.”  As soon as they started playing the national anthem she told me that the men would start crying.

Die = kill  Context:  The light was peaking in through the blinds and making little spots of light on the ground.  Isaac started hitting the spots and saying “I’m going to die this light”

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Time for Chores!

I’ve been frustrated at my lack of time lately and feeling like I’ll never have the time to do more than maintain the level that I have now.  It was in pondering this dilemma that I determined to try having my preschoolers help.  Today I had them try a variety of different chores so that I could determine which chores were best for each child and what I needed to teach each child to increase his or her repertoire of chores.  Most of my surveying was with Isaac, as he’s the older and more willing of the two.  We started off with the toilet.  He did ok, but needed direction on where and how to wipe all of the surfaces, how to hold the spray cleaner, and how to squirt the toilet cleaner into the toilet, but for some reason he enjoyed the task.  Later in the day he used the toilet and then reported that it needed to be cleaned again.  I taught him how to clean a mirror (using the one in his room).  At dinnertime I had him clear the table and rinse all of the dishes.  He did these chores well and with little need for direction.  Charlotte did the laundry and scooped the litter.  She switched clothes from the washer to the dryer and unloaded the dryer when it was done.  She did so well that I could actually walk away while she was working and she persisted through and finished.  The litter didn’t have much to scoop, so that lesson will have to be resumed later.

It was a successful trial.  I found a few chores that they could do independently that would actually help me.  I think I may spend some more time training them before implementing a chore chart and rewards system, but so far so good. 

Seattle

2806685685_19bf604e1e_b I think the death of my grandmother motivated us to plan a trip to visit our only surviving grandparent (Zach’s paternal grandmother) in Seattle and I’m glad it did because we had a great trip.

Zach, Isaac, Charlotte, and Zach’s parents left for Seattle at 5:00 AM on Saturday (8-23-08) and arrived in Seattle at about 7:20 PM (Utah time).  By all accounts the children did well and the trip up was uneventful.  I flew with Nicole that evening leaving Utah at about 9:20 and also had an uneventful trip.

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